The overt “do it for your husband!” messaging did rub me the wrong way in some parts but I feel like it’s more that putting in the effort to look good for your romantic partner often makes you feel good. [–]pockolate[S] [score hidden] 16 hours ago (1 child). If it wasn't working, I would just bounce her to sleep and try again the next nap. In fact I had the exact opposite reaction as the OP to that quote from the doctor. By Day 5, I was able to put her down drowsy but awake for pretty much all naps/bedtimes. You lazy woman. They weren't that bad so I'm not super wed to going unmedicated, but your comment struck me as reasonable and objective (and not extreme) and I'd love to learn more!! :D I wonder who he���s looking at. Not only would it be good for my mental health to sleep in longer chunks of time, but it would also be healthy for baby--having longer, uninterrupted chunks of sleep is good for brain development. For the uninitiated, "Bringing Up Bébé" was an international bestseller written by Pamela Druckerman, an American living in Paris. Bringing Up Bebe by Pamela Druckerman: This book is a fun read, but I especially enjoyed the different cultural perspective. Pictures or links posted without content will be removed. [–]pockolate[S] [score hidden] 17 hours ago (2 children). These days, I spend less than 5 minutes getting LO down for naps, she is put down awake and puts herself to sleep, and she sleeps 6-8 hours in a row at night (usually only wakes up for one night feed). Submitted by: xofiasblog This took forever to make but it was fun ��� Mupp/en: Aaaaah your style is so cute! However, waking so often at night isn't the norm elsewhere in the world. I am first trimester, don’t have a birth plan at this point except for some vague ideas, but I will say, one of the hardest things about pregnancy so far has been the loss of control. She goes on rapturously for whole paragraphs about the svelte figures of French moms. With Katharine Hepburn, Cary Grant, Charles Ruggles, Walter Catlett. I think there was still something there that’s helpful in just the sense about maintaining your identity. I started keeping a sleep log, which has been tremendously helpful. Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our User Agreement and Privacy Policy. I’m definitely open-minded to the fact that my mind could completely change later on. On top of the lack of general social supports. If she was actually crying (genuinely upset), I would pick her up and would try again. The next thing I wanted to fix was the "staying asleep" problem. When she gets good sleep, she is such a happy baby! I can really tell the difference when she's had an "off night" (and has woken up multiple times, needing to be bounced back to sleep), verses when she's slept through. But Youmu and Reisen end up in battle. She fussed for about 10 minutes before falling asleep. . After mine I slept for a good 10 hours straight. So on Night 1, baby girl could feed every 2 hours. And I want to emphasize that it all comes down to personal choice—there are pros and cons to every decision here, and no single technique is right for everyone. I think a lot of birthing people need more control. At the beginning of this whole process, I started keeping a sleep log, and it has really, really helped me learn her rhythms (and nudge them, as required!). I didn’t take it as a guidebook, but more just an added perspective since I look at parenting through a very American lens. When we first started this, LO was 4 months old and a bit too young for any sort of true "sleep training," so I decided to do "sleep coaching.". Don’t get me wrong, I did find the French attitude around birth rather austere and I do believe that women have the right to birth how they want and I appreciate that American healthcare seems to be much more open to that. My method: I would bounce her until she was almost-but-not-quite sleeping (eyes closing). Don't say that word!" [–]TwoRoads2Travel [score hidden] 14 hours ago* (0 children). Yet even here we see posts about that and cheer it on as a positive thing. Yay hero dad??? I’m an American living in Germany, FWIW, so the expat angle appealed to me. In the sense that I just don’t really see it as an experience I should be curating but moreso as a means to an end to get my baby. Like, I don’t care about how I give birth. I personally loved the book. ": How reading about ��� Then on the very next page after this statistic, the author backtracks and says fathers do help out because she sometimes sees “scruffy” dads taking kids to the park. On Day 3, it worked for three (of the four) naps, PLUS it worked for bedtime! Originally posted by peachu. It reached the tipping point yesterday when he hid the formula so I'd have "no choice" but to breastfeed our daughter. The hideous sight of you will offend all of France. I really appreciated the view in the book that you don't need to give up everything about yourself in service of your child, and that this isn't even necessarily good for the child. And I say that as a mom of twins...I just choose to prioritize looking and feeling my best over other things (say maybe doing the dishes), [–]ironbasementwizard [score hidden] 15 hours ago (1 child). For that one nap, she low-level cried for 10 minutes before falling asleep on her own. [–]beetFarmingBachelor [score hidden] 12 hours ago (0 children). I appreciate you sharing your perspective. I know there was a bunch of criticism of the attitudes concerning birth and women’s appearance during pregnancy and after giving birth. It sucks that the system is so broken that hospital policy is written by lawyers. Unlike parenting fads that come and go, this book will always be Definitely a good call to exercise moderation. Off. no this isn’t a circus or a zoo, you’ll give birth on your back like everyone else”. I started using a signal phrase: "it's sleepytime now. So this is actually worse for the patient's safety because a cesarian has more risks than a vaginal birth. Bebe's style features a scoop neck, and you can snap up a similar version at Italist by clicking right. Sidenote: this technique actually worked too well, and she overshot the mark, haha. I will not be feeding my kid anything that resembles a typical American kid’s diet. 100%. However, I honestly think that without all this work, we'd still be having a really rough time with sleeping. It is very obvious that French culture (the way it’s described here, by an American author) has an undercurrent of sexism and body shaming. Can we have the good food but not shame moms for keeping on baby weight? Anonymous said: dude stop Is there somewhere was one of the best smut i have read in my life!!!!! I look back at where I was a month and a half ago, and I am SO HAPPY I am no longer there. in a way I can see how it must be easier for sure to just go with the flow along with everyone else! I decided that we needed to tackle the dreaded "drowsy but awake." I don’t mean to be offensive but it felt so refreshing to not hear more about losing your identity to motherhood, having no time or interest in yourself (even personal hygiene), pushing your marriage to the bottom of your priority list. Lol. I’m hoping to move around my room and try varying positions to maximize engagement, rotation, and FER during active and pushing phases. By Night 8, she seemed to be getting used to this new schedule.'s sad to think we even have to go against a mainstream culture to feed kids in a healthy way. [–]StripeyWoolSocksTeam Don't Know! I think there are a small number of people who truly don’t care how they give birth, who are fine being on their back with their legs spread, etc. It's hard in the moment, but really pays off. Then there’s the fact that French husbands are total dead weight around the house, but their wives are fine with that. I know that it's considered normal in American culture for babies to sleep poorly, and for parents to get up frequently at night for the first year or longer. The other naps, I had to bounce her to sleep as usual. I did more research, and I ended up with the following hypothesis: I decided that this problem was due to a "delayed sleep phase"--basically, baby was going to sleep too late, and sleeping in too late in the morning (after crying for several hours, she would pass out around 10pm and would wake up for the day around 9am). I also agree with the book on not rocking the bot too much on your birth strategy. He doesn’t pull his weight because he doesn’t want to and that’s that. [score hidden] 7 hours ago (1 child). Having had an epidural, there wasn’t any sleeping until time to push for me. AITA for not breastfeeding my baby because she bites? Rendered by PID 21885 on r2-app-049f22e1912a286d5 at 2021-01-06 09:53:21.615990+00:00 running 15b6a67 country code: US. A great place to come for post-partum depression, breast or formula feeding issues, and body image. If you were the type who liked sweatpants and no makeup before pregnancy, then that’s fine to continue afterwards. Not to mention the chefs preparing fresh, real food for those children. I'm sure that some of the progress is due to her simply being older (5.5 months now, vs. 4 months at the beginning of this process). We should be honest and call the bad parts for what they are. Baby cries for 3-4 hours at bedtime every night! Then inevitably comes something like, French women don’t breastfeed because their husbands think it’s unattractive for a woman to use her breasts for something other than pleasing men. [–]starspeakr [score hidden] 9 hours ago (0 children). I won't lie, this hasn't been the easiest process. I saw this book was recommended and had been previously discussed on this sub, and I was intrigued by the discussions so I wanted to read it myself - I just finished it. If you have any questions, I'm happy to answer! I think that she goes to sleep faster without my interference. Because you are a sexy woman, which is incompatible with showing any outward sign that you had a baby, nope, that’s a no go, better lose that weight within 3 months and definitely don’t let your husband see you below the waist during vaginal birth, or you will disgust him with your gross body. [score hidden] 15 hours ago (3 children). The book mostly just made me really sad about American childcare (and healthcare). And if all you really care about is being safe, ie you don’t mind an episiotomy or ending a blood patch from a bad spinal (for example), I’d say you’re lucky honestly. I agree with many of your points, but the reason to move around during birth is because it actually helps the labor process along. On Night 2, baby girl could feed every 2.5 hours, and so on. If you weren't stuck with a $20,000 bill after giving birth, then maybe a lawsuit wouldn't seem worth it right? You hear this a lot, often as a moral judgement like, oh those terrible selfish people who just want to ruin doctor's careers for a quick buck. And actually the whole assembly line thing is also common in the US. If I were in the US, I probably would have gone the epidural route, too, but in Germany, its standard to labor with movement and let gravity help you get the baby out. Bringing up Bebe book My husband and I just started TTC so I���m planning to read a few pregnancy/parenting books. The book has good advice, but to find it you have to wade through a LOT of existential dread about getting fat. I am one of those STMs-to-be and had some of the complications that came with on my back birth + epidural. And I believe the American pressure for women to silently suffer even to the point of psychosis is something that should be called out and that mothers should be encouraged to strike the right balance between being themselves/happy and doing what is best for the child. The book made me feel validated in still wanting to take time to care for me and look good. If she grumbled or soft cried, I would leave her. Anyone else feel super lonely being pregnant during a pandemic? In reading a lot of these subs, I find my personal feelings to be in the minority or at least not as vocalized. I’m a FTM due this month, and own the book but haven’t read it yet. I also think sometimes women that are FTMs think xyz will be ok, but in retrospect, you can never truly know until you have had your birth. I’m not asking people to justify to me why they don’t want an epidural btw, just wondering if anyone else feels the same as me. On Day 1, this only worked for one nap. Especially as a millennial woman living in NYC, a lot of what she referenced to REALLY hit home for me and I think she articulated it so well. This weekend I met my friend Samuel at the park. Delivering on your back lying down is useful for doctors to be able to assess where you are, but it's a terrible position for labouring, and again carries with it significant risk to both the mother and the baby. The experience of pregnancy and the data in Expecting Better by Emily Oster (which suggests that the choice is often between a rougher labor or a rougher recovery in statistical generalizations, of course individual experiences differ widely). Will go read your post, but doubt it will change my mind. So this caused me to realize that these things I take for granted are fairly arbitrary cultural constructs, and not automatically the best way to live. I never actually used the Ferber method of CIO! Then I had to keep her up a bit later (she wanted to go to sleep at 6pm)!. Don't get me wrong, I did have some strong cravings that I really wanted to satisfy (and I did), but there weren't too many of those when thinking about the whole 8 months I was pregnant. Yikes, well if I'm doing more work in any case, I'll take the one where I don't also have to dress up to take my kid to the park! So I can only find glowing reviews of this book online and I feel like I’m taking crazy pills here. It's important for her to learn that she can be safe and happy by herself (she doesn't need me there all the time). I just don’t want to feel pain and I want myself and my baby to be healthy. I cut out hours of bouncing by teaching baby to fall asleep on her own (i.e. :). Help! Baby cries for 3-4 hours at bedtime every night! I've lived in France before, but not as a mom, so this book was a great way to understand the different approaches to parenting. Sorry, nobody needs a whole pizza or whole cake, pregnant or not. And while he’s out, what’s his wife doing, relaxing on the sofa? But at the same time I found it an effective point to illustrate how extreme American individualism can be, This to me doesn't represent American individualism, instead it's low key horrifying. Ask maybedefinitely404 Anonymous gma ask Muppen draws It looks like bebe Virgil is shushing Patton Like No I'm not heavy quiet you xD Meanwhile Patton is struggling help him Had to compare to one of the lads instead of a random character~ Pat and bebe Virge would be quite similar in size xD Wouldn't stop him from trying to carry the bebe tho Chuuya: - All he saw was red I don't think either are wrong or bad, but I am grateful to have options (and I'm sure those feelings are a direct product of our society and culture! ), [–]WaterBearDontMindFTM graduated 01.27.19 [score hidden] 11 hours ago (2 children). Amidst all the talk this past week about Pamela Druckerman���s new book, Bringing The problem for me is a lot of these attitudes are rooted in really deep patriarchy and negatively effect a lot of women, especially women of color. FTM 19 +4, I had my anatomy ultrasound today. America is litigious as fuck. After a few weeks, I felt like I had really locked down the "getting to sleep" issue. I dunno. . CONQUERING "DROWSY BUT AWAKE"), The next problem I wanted to address was needing to bounce her for 15-30 minutes before every nap and bedtime. It's one of the biggest changes of your life and we're all here to support one another! . But I know so many miserable American mothers who have given up everything and make choices they are deeply unhappy with, who don't feel like themselves, but they derive their self-worth from this sacrifice and they are quite depressed, and hey, maybe that's not a healthy societal pressure to put on women? Wow that sounds great, I wish my OB would dismiss and ignore my preferences, what a feminist system this is! srs so much of the time when people cry "cancel culture is so toxic" it's to excuse some bigoted guru being bigoted. The warning against men looking at the vaginal area during birth was most problematic and misogynistic in my opinion. and more power to them. A year ago, Amy Chua, a.k.a. I sometimes joke that I would like to have a Queens birth , So when I read this book I wrote a novella-length response that I typed up but never posted. I suppose the upside of a society that is very community-oriented is that while there are seemingly fewer choices, you won't be getting that same criticism. You're not going to die! I feel like I have so much more free time these days, I'm much more awake, I enjoy my baby so much more, and I feel like SHE is so much happier. My husband and I just started TTC so I’m planning to read a few pregnancy/parenting books. I tried many of the suggestions there, without much luck. Yes I agree with this 100%. A native of Brittany, he���s describing my children as ���the mysterious French man���, but like me, he is a suburban dad here in Connecticut. [–]sakijane [score hidden] 14 hours ago (1 child). Yep you heard it here moms, the secret to being as happy as the French is to accept that even though you and your husband work full time, you’ll be doing twice as much house work for the next 18 years and you should just decide this fact makes you happy actually. The thing is, there are so many things about France that are great for parents, like the 16 weeks of maternity leave, subsidized daycare, and free pre-K. Like, can I have that stuff but without the deadbeat dads please? She is relieved that nobody bothers pregnant people for drinking coffee (great!) © 2021 reddit inc. All rights reserved. The part about caring what you look like and how American women use pregnancy as an excuse to eat a lot more than they normally would definitely hit home for me. No epidural for baby #2 was a very easy choice for me! Get an ad-free experience with special benefits, and directly support Reddit. The dads in France are actually worse than the US though! One. She seems so much happier now that she's sleeping longer chunks at night! Do what you want!” but then there’s still all of the guilt afterwards because it’s really hard to actually not care. But when you show up to deliver, you’ve got to work with the pros you’re assigned, whatever their failings: forcing them into unfamiliar situations worsens the outcomes. If she's awake in bed, but happy and quiet, I leave her alone. But in the meantime, protecting the hospital from lawsuits is not the responsibility of the patient. You may not think you’d do that, but plenty of people would. I always make sure I shower and I do my hair and make up nearly every day if I can. ... Bebe is hands down the funniest character on the entire show. I don’t disagree with you! Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother (ISBN 9781594202841) is a book by Amy "Tiger Mom" Chua, a Chinese-American Professor of Law at Yale University (sorry Yale) who seeks to import the "Asian Tiger" economic model into parenting. She definitely has learned other signal phrases though ("are you a hungry girl?" Of course, that’s rude to say to a patient and very jarring coming from an American perspective. I feel like she's "learned the skill" of putting herself to sleep. She only cried for one to two minutes before falling asleep each time! Perhaps a better way to have worded my thoughts rather than harp on the epidural is that I just don’t really have a birth plan the way many others seem to. It’s like how you HAVE to leave the hospital in a wheelchair, even if you can walk completely fine, because they don’t want you to sue them if you trip and fall. Anyway since French parents spend park time hanging out and drinking coffee, these sightings are hardly evidence of a hard working dad. you're going to have criticism no matter your choice, because there is a choice to be made. I think it becomes problematic if the men are putting on the pressure or it’s because men have expectations you have to meet “or else”. It moves the baby and gets it into the best position, often faster, but not in every case. So to convince us how great childbirth is in France, the author tells an anecdote about a doctor who is an arrogant bastard with no respect for patient autonomy. But I guess the lesson is, even not having a plan may not go to plan.. haha. Looking good is a tiny piece of this overall philosophy that women do not have to sacrifice every single thing. I actually really vibe with the “don’t rock the boat, just order off the menu” mentality, but I’m more about autonomy when it comes to giving birth. This reminded me of an article I read several years ago about the book Bringing Up Bebe, about parenting insights gleaned by an American mother living in France. Here it is for your enjoyment . So OBs are kind of forced to prioritize these other concerns outside of the labor and delivery aspect. Sometimes, she does nurse to sleep, but it's not a habit and hasn't seemed to cause any problems. Congratulations on this working for you. Directed by Howard Hawks. My baby laughed at “Le pause.”. For example, as other said laboring on your back is shown to lead to more complications and a higher chance of a cesarian. That being said... i don’t feel like American women ultimately care less than French women (French women according to the author of course) about what they look like during and after pregnancy. [–]Allibob1 [score hidden] 17 hours ago (8 children), You can’t really imagine what it’s like to be giving birth and have zero control and at the mercy of the doctors on staff if you haven’t done it yet. I do acknowledge that part of this is obviously luck but I also remained very active and really didn’t up my calories much at all. I don't think it is necessarily patriarchal to feel like you can look as hot as you used to look, that you can be happy and carve out time for yourself, that you should feel that you can continue your career. I still want my husband to want to have sex with me. People were constantly trying to shove food at me and mocking my smaller portions, saying I need to eat more for baby. My only feedback to your comments on birthing position is that, as I understand, laboring on your back with legs spread will restrict movement of the sacrum and space in the pelvic outlet, thus decreasing opening for baby to rotate and exit. Definitely agree that in an ideal world, alternative birthing positions and the like would become more widely recognized as valid by the healthcare system and there would be more training but the reality is that doctors and hospitals implement a lot of rules because they’d otherwise go bankrupt from all the ensuing lawsuits. What that French doctor said about “giving birth on your back with your legs open” .. sounds really okay to me. TestaOnFire Reddit Profile (OverView), View TestaOnFire Comments and Posts.. Aging à la Française Mireille Guiliano is now tackling aging with ���French Women Don���t Get Facelifts: The Secrets of Style and Attitude.��� [–]BButFirstCoffeeTeam Blue! my subreddits. I stretched out time between night feedings by a half hour each night. Like: How dare you go grocery shopping in sweatpants, don’t you love your husband? In fact they think it’s adorable, and believe men are just biologically worse at doing things like booking a babysitter which …. However, I'm including it here because I know that a lot of people do really enjoy it, and I am glad I read it. I highly recommend reading this book, even if you have no intention of doing CIO, because of the great information. THIS. gets her really excited, since I started months ago saying that before feeding her), so I'm hopeful that this will be helpful. By DAY 3, she was going to sleep at 7:30pm, and we were down to only 30 minutes of crying before going to sleep! Of course, that’s rude to say to a patient and very jarring coming from an American perspective. I'm also a big believer that if a woman wants to work on her sex appeal it should be for herself (because it makes her feel better/more confident etc), not because she feels she owes it to other people, including her husband. However, once I started this process, if she woke up "too early," then I would have to get her to fall asleep without feeding her--she would cry, and it would be a longer process. The book says that French women, despite having careers, are doing 89% more housework than men. part of what comes from a very individualistic society is differing opinions being thrown at you from all angles. Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting (Audiobook) by. Like, parents need to respect that their children are individuals who can control themselves, and kids need to respect that their parents are individuals who need grownup time. Looking sexy to impress my man makes me feel sexy. [score hidden] 1 hour ago (0 children), the French way of doing things is more for the convenience of the doctors. "If your child needs socking, sock him! I'm glad to hear it before I-" - "Don't say it! I’d be curious if french society similarly wrests control away from parents so early. I’m almost done with Bringing Up Bebe, too—though I mostly was interested in parenting differences over birthing. In the long term, I hope OBs and L&D nurses receive better training for giving birth in more effective positions. She seems so much happier now. Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems by Richard Ferber, Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Marc Weissbluth. [–]BoundNRound [score hidden] 10 hours ago (0 children), OP- I definitely feel you on the birthing plan part. use the following search parameters to narrow your results: All Bump Photos belong in our Stickied Daily Thread, All Ultrasound/Announcement Photos belong in our Stickied Weekly Thread. I actually posted a cry for help here on BtB about how to reduce wakings at night, but only received comments saying that I shouldn't night wean (Advice on coaching baby not to need the boob so often at night?. Furthermore, according to both my pediatrician and modern research (Ferber talks about it in his book, for example), a four month old baby should only have to feed 1-2 times per night, and a five month old baby should only have to feed 0-1 times per night. We do occasionally have a hard time--she's refused some afternoon naps, and some bedtimes are rough, especially when naps haven't gone well that day. The difference was that the French women seemed content to roll over and accept it, saying things like, "Oh well men just don't know how to clean, what can you expect?!". I did really hate the whole “do whatever you want because you’re growing a human” attitude. I happen to live in a New York City neighborhood that���s home to a number of French families. I actually posted here, asking for help (Help! Something is alive and then it���s dead. The author seems aware of this but thinks it is good, actually, because it is so successful at keeping women thin. 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